Gaslighting is one of the most insidious tactics in the manipulative playbook. It’s all about making you doubt your own reality, your own perceptions.

She’ll twist conversations, deny things she said, and manipulate situations so that you’re left questioning your memory and judgment. You’ll start wondering if you’re the crazy one, even when you know deep down that something doesn’t add up.

This tactic keeps you constantly second-guessing yourself, handing her the upper hand in every situation because you’re no longer sure what’s real and what’s not.

The brilliance of gaslighting lies in its subtlety. She doesn’t need to outright lie; she just needs to sow enough seeds of doubt.

It’s in the little comments, the shrugged-off conversations, the way she brushes aside your concerns like they’re no big deal.

Over time, these small manipulations add up until you’re questioning your own sanity, and that’s where she wins. Once you’ve lost confidence in your own mind, she can dictate the reality of the relationship, spinning things in her favor while you scramble to make sense of it all.

Eventually, you’ll find yourself apologizing for things you didn’t even do or accepting blame for situations you know weren’t your fault.

That’s the ultimate goal of gaslighting: to make you doubt yourself so deeply that you surrender control to her, all while believing that you’re the one at fault.

The longer it continues, the more difficult it becomes to untangle the web of lies and regain your sense of self. And in my case I was going to drive my self to the local mental institution and check myself in. I am so glad I didn’t and now see it for what it was.

Disclaimer: Yes I know that there are many instances of gaslighting, but I am focusing on the woman in the marriage, because that is what happened to me.