Proposals.

Nowhere is it written that a man has to drop to one knee to propose. Let’s break it down. Getting down on one knee is similar to giving a PowerPoint presentation. You’re showing how you’re “worthy” enough for her.

Think about it: you’re out there, lowering yourself, literally begging, to take on all the responsibilities of marriage.

Imagine this: You’re a grown man, kneeling in public, asking her to step into your life and take a slice of your energy, your time, and your commitment. She should be excited to share a future together, not needing you to look like you’re auditioning for a part in her life. So let’s skip the public proposal and raise the standard instead of lowering yourself.

long distance relationships.

No long-distance relationship, it’s a SCAM Long-distance relationships are the ultimate relationship illusion. Think about it—you’re dating pixels on a screen, not a person you can actually see, touch, or connect with in real time. You’re spending hours texting and FaceTiming, talking about the future, and thinking you’re both on the same page…while in reality, she’s likely out there having a ‘social life’ that you know nothing about. When you can’t physically be there, you’re basically trusting she’s on board 24/7 while every dude within a five-mile radius is probably lining up to “check in” on her. And let’s be real—you won’t have a clue what’s really going on. So before you commit to that endless texting and virtual dates, ask yourself: are you truly in a relationship, or are you just her remote emotional support while she’s out living her best life?

Money.

Don’t let her know your bank or safe deposit box access codes. Keep your bank info and safety deposit codes to yourself. If she’s not married to you, don’t just hand her the keys to the vault. Think about it: most people don’t even share their Netflix passwords, yet some guys are out here giving up PIN codes like they’re loyalty points. The truth? Money has a funny way of making people generous… especially when it’s your money. And if she’s got your bank card and password in hand, watch out — suddenly every minor “necessity” turns into a major shopping spree. So, be smart. Discretion is the best way to protect your assets… and your sanity. I would venture to say from personal experience, even if married you will want to keep something for just you. All she has to do is decide that another guy is better and / or you find out you were never part of the family. She will then throw you away like trash and take you for all you are worth, without any guilt or remorse and she will do it all with a smile on her face. You will need something to fall back on and start over with.

Father Figure.

Never marry her if her father didn’t raise her equally. Stay away from a woman who doesn’t have a father figure. She might be sweet, but without a dad around, she could think every man is a walking ATM or someone who should be on call 24/7 for emotional support. And let’s be honest — you didn’t sign up for that kind of work. You might get her submission and respect, but it’ll probably come with a side of “I don’t get why you need alone time” and “Can you just fix this for me?” If that is not what it is, then rest assured there will be a price for her submission and respect. I know from personal experience on this one too. It’s not worth the price, trust me. Without a father figure, she may not have learned that men aren’t just problem-solving emotionless robots. She might think your “I need space” is code for “I’m mad at you.” Save yourself the drama and make sure she’s got at least one strong male figure in her life, preferably one who taught her how to respect boundaries, manage expectations, and how to treat men. Otherwise, you’re in for a ride that ends with you needing therapy.

Women lie.

Your children shouldn’t see you as the bad guy. Men have been abandoned by their children simply because they didn’t take care of them, and most of the time they do. But the children didn’t know this, so they thought their father didn’t care about them, and in the case of parents divorcing, they believe everything the mother tells them, even when she lied.

divorce.

Don’t believe a woman’s version of events. Most women will tell you their ex was evil, but here’s the truth: it’s almost always a lie. They want you to believe their ex was the devil so you never see the devil in them. It’s a classic diversion tactic—the ex was the villain, but somehow, she’s the innocent angel. What they’re really doing is hiding their own flaws behind a painted picture of past trauma. Don’t fall for it. Pay attention to how she treats you, not her sob story about the past. The devil doesn’t always wear horns—sometimes, it’s just a well-told tale.